The Neither Season

"Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming." Shauna Niequist

I recently read an article about how there is a huge number of people in their mid to late twenties having a quarter life crisis. The jist of the article was that this is the time in your life where you get to discover the direction in which you want your life to move in. To discover who you are and who you want to be. This is the time to find a job you love, to get financially responsible, to fall in love aka figure out who you are and find the person that makes you your best, to have adventures with your friends, to dream and to know it is ok to chase after that dream.

I know from personal experience, that it can be a scary and intimidating time. A time of uncertainty, up until this point in your life there was always an already established next step. Something that you could naturally progress into. But now, everything is open. You have a blank slate and you have to figure out what you want to fill it with. Where you want to live, what makes you happy, how to support yourself financially, the list goes on. I think that part of the reason this time is so scary is that as people we naturally compare ourselves to others, we look at where our friends are in their lives and we start to wonder whether we will ever get there. Whether it be owning our own home, getting married, starting a family, finding a career...all these things are found at different paces for different people. You can't measure your life, your success, your dreams to what others have...your happiness won't come from sticking to their time line. It will come from recognizing yours.

While this season of life is full of questions and choices and can be scary because you are learning to stand on your own, I am happy to embrace it and relish this time of becoming.